Kara Bos was born in Korea and adopted by an American couple in Sheridan, Michigan when she was about 3 years old. She had never felt the need to find her birth family until her daughter turned two years old. Her love for her two children and wish for them to know their origins sparked the search for her birth mother and her Korean identity.
Ms. Bos’s adoption journey opened her eyes to the realities of the adoption process. As she uncovered more documents and confronted conflicting information, she realized that it is not always as straightforward or honorable as she had believed it to be. Years of searching and going back and forth to Korea, she had a breakthrough when a DNA match came back positive – her half-nephew. Through this connection, she was able to make a family tree and find her assumed father and half-sisters.
As the search for answers and who her mother could be went on, Ms. Bos was met with closed doors by her assumed family. The continued refusals ultimately led Ms. Bos to file a paternity suit in 2019, something she had never expected to do. By June 2020, it was recognized by the Seoul Family Court that this man is her father.
The pushback Ms. Bos faced by her birth family was turbulent and painful, but she is grateful she met them and have a basic understanding of who and where she comes from. Kara Bos hopes that her children view her exploration of her identity as something courageous and through her experience they will also find pride in who they are as Koreans.