In August 2010, my autobiographical play entitled “MISS KIM” premiered in the New York International Fringe Festival. It was one of 197 plays featured in the festival and listed as the top 10 hottest shows in the Fringe. “MISS KIM” honestly narrates the events of my life. When people ask what my play is about, I usually hesitate for a second before I tell them. Once I explain that the play is about my experiences with being sexually abused, the reactions are always fascinating to me.
I am a survivor of sexual abuse. At 8 years old, I was sexually abused by my mother’s brother-in-law. In 1997, when I was 21 years old, I was raped at knife point by a stranger in Seoul, Korea. Then, a few months later, I was date raped by a college acquaintance in Seoul, Korea. I was told often that I attract abuse and that I should be more careful. Did I attract my uncle, the rapist and the date rapist? I have come to understand that such sentiments are akin to blaming the victim. I now understand that I am not at fault for having been victimized.